Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Random thoughts on Adoption

All three of our children are adopted. They were all adopted at a very young age, so living with us is the only life they have ever known. We have no biological children, so loving adopted children is the only thing Hubby and I have ever known.

Adoption is a good thing. It's a very good thing. Scripture is very much for adoption. We just read the story about Moses in our Bible class today, how he was adopted by the Egyptian princess. She saved his life. Duh-duh said, "Just like us, we're adopted." Although he doesn't really know what it all means. Queen Esther was adopted by her uncle Mordecai. I guess, in a sense, Ruth was "adopted" by Naomi, even though she was grown up. The Apostle Paul talks about how God adopted us into His family. God commands us to look after the widows and the orphans, that is True Religion in His sight.

Out of respect for my children's privacy, I will not divulge the details of why they were available for adoption. However, I will say that it improved their situation exponentially. It also gave Hubby and me a chance to be parents and have a family. It was a win-win situation on all sides.

What I would like to know is this... if adoption is such a good thing, why does our culture still act as though it is the worst thing a mother could do to her child? We hear things like, "How could a mother give up her own child?" Yet the liberals fight for a woman's right to kill her own child, and that's supposed to be a good thing. Why do we encourage and glamorize teen pregnancy? Think Jamie-Lynn Spears. Is a teenager truly able to shoulder the responsibility needed to successfully raise a child? It has been proven time and time again that children do best in a stable, mature two-parent home. In a day and age where open adoption is becoming more and more frequent, a girl can maintain contact with her child, even though she's not raising it. I'm sure that it would still be a heart-wrenching decision to give that child up, but I would hope the ability to maintain contact would ease the pain somewhat. And yet, we still look at girls who give their child up for adoption as the worst of the worst. Heaven forbid we unselfishly give our child life and a loving family. Why... we might as well kill it.


Kim said...

Well said, my friend. Well said.

Carolyn said...

so true....

I'm glad God has given you three beautiful children through the gift of adoption!