I stopped dreaming when I was about 26 years old. When I was younger than that, I dreamed about the life I'd have. I dreamed about getting married, having a family, what my wedding would be like, what I'd name my kids. But then... it didn't happen. I didn't get married until I was 34 years old. That wasn't what I had planned. And then, I couldn't get pregnant. So, for a long long time, I didn't dream. I just kind of let life happen to me. I wouldn't say that is a bad way to live. I actually have a good life. I have a wonderful husband, three beautiful children and a nice house. However, some of the choices we are making regarding our life make me think we need to start dreaming a little, planning ahead a little, because if we continue in this "letting life happen to us" mode, we may find ourselves in a place we don't want to be in.
One of the biggest things I'm looking at is our choice of lifestyle. I look at my children and think, "What do I want for my kids? How do I want them to turn out and how is the best way to accomplish that?" First and foremost, I want them to have a vibrant, personal relationship with Christ. We are doing our best to teach them Scripture, get them involved in our church and be good models for them. Secondly, we want them to be hard-working, unselfish people. It's that second one we're getting stuck on. How do you teach children to work hard, when there's very little they can do? I mean, my kids do chores, but there's really only so many chores I can assign them. We homeschool and we are working on being diligent workers and doing our best. But, then, what do we do with the rest of our day? The kids play. This is fine for now, but what happens when they are older? I don't want to just "fill up their time" with sports and music and other activities. While a little of that is fine, I want more for my kids. I want them to feel like they are contributing to the greater good of the family. I want them to be working with the family on something with purpose and meaning. I want them to be occupied in work that can benefit them later on in life. I don't exactly know what that would look like. I keep toying with the idea of a small family farm. Hubby would continue with his job, of course, but I'd love to have a small acreage and teach the boys to farm. They can work and earn their own money as well. I think this would provide what I'm looking for for our kids, and also myself.
So, I've started to dream again!
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